3 Things | Every Mom Thing
Random thoughts from my head to yours
- every mom thing I tell you is me trying to be the adult I needed as a child. It's healing.
2. As a parent, you don't need to be perfect. You just need to be present. And yes, some of the things you will do to engage with your child are weird or boring. Do them anyway.
C. I need to get better at asking if you want help or just need to vent. My need to see you thrive sometimes comes off as overwhelming. I know that. I'm working on it.
I, too, am practicing asking to you want to vent or do you want advice? I read a quote a year or two again that really impacted me: Unsolicited advice is criticism.
For the first time in my life I made the connection about how I felt when others offered me unsolicited advice_ granted, they were mostly men I resented_ and how I was impacted others in the guise of being helpful. I know that you are well-intentioned. I think both of us grew up in situations were being helpful was the one thing that got us positive attention. Most of the time, at least.